Sex and the City (the movie): friendship etc.
Just came back from watching “Sex and the City” from the cinema. I think, besides Seinfeld, SATC is one of the series that I enjoy watching, maybe because I can relate to each of the characters in the serie. Though to some people SATC the movie is categorized as “you have to look at the clothes”, or, “Shallow, fun to watch”, but there are some things that it brought up and made the busy brain relate to the life she is in at present.
I’m not writing a review on the film, I believe there has been lots of reviews already. I’m just…blogging.
One thing, is friendship. True friendship where you can empathize with each other. True friendship where you are happy if the others are happy. Definetely friends who dares to tell that “What is that gut all about?”, friends that will be your mirror. Who knows what to do when you are going through things, who are standing besides you no matter what. Do I have one? Fortunately, I have several of them. My three girlfriends that I have known for almose 7 years now, who are all extraordinary busy with life, but always there when we need each other. Definetely, when we are going through rough moments. I remember calling my friend when I was going through a rough time and they all there. I remember my friend called from Jakarta while I was in Milan for work and spent a fortune just to tell me she badly broke up with her boyfriend. I remember going to Bali just accompanying a friend who needs a good break after she broke up. And bunch of us (the JSRTs) flew to Bangkok to accompany a friend who was not coping well with her break up.
Depression and how a person break the cycle of depression. What it is like to be depressed phases of building up and picking up the pieces. Where you just cannot smile, staying in bed all day. Then finally force ourselves to stop indulging your pain, but start a new life. I totally can relate to that.
About relationships. About how we often forget about our partner and just think about ourselves, or about the relationship itself. About forgetting that it is “us”, not just “I” anymore when you have a relationship. About letting go part of our ego when we have another important person in our lives.
About everybody has their own issues to deal with. Broken hearted. Challenged marriage. Being true to yourself and mend your own relationship with yourself before having a relationship for others. About learning from other people. We are not too special, we are not the only ones sufferring from relationship problems. And again, having good friend who empathize and take care of you and support you through difficult time, lightening up your life and fill in your emptiness.
About forgiveness. About feeling instead of thinking. About trying to forget the past and move on to grow. About being in love with someone who has hurt you.
About love, where love is a strong bond…well, the movie makes it like: Love conquers all, which in reality, it doesn’t happen much. As a helpless romantic but awfully think too much instead of feeling, somewhere in the deepest part of me have to confess that to love is much better than anger. Grief because of love. About loving yourself before loving someone else.
It seems like living in Jakarta, the problems are pretty much the same problems in big cities, and there is nothing too different about it. Jakarta, New York. Social life and entertainment. Only have few valuable real friends, which you can absoluely be your mirror and not ashamed of telling the truth. Honesty. Honest to yorself and honest your friends. Moreover, honest to your heart, yourself, about your feelings. Are you happy?
The SATC movie strongly shows the bond between the women, a strong friendship that grew stronger and stronger, who supports each other during the rough moments. Do I have friends like that, who will catch me if I fall?
There are bunch of things that I can relate to the movie. It is a must-see movie, really, It is a must see movie for mature adulsts.
About the love between Carrie and Big…at the end, it was too simplified, looks like a fairy tale. But you can still pick up some good lines and I guarantee you can always relate to at least one part of the movie into your life. Maybe it was just the right movie to watch for me. At least at this moment.
July 11, 2008 at 10:18 am
Sex and the City would be sad for me to watch since I am now more of a “desperate housewife”. Sometimes I miss being single in Jakarta, the freedom, the flirting, the buzz of the place, the girlfriends. Now, we don;t get to watch any movies unless they’re on DVDs.
It’s interesting to see whether Carrie is having her happily ever after life post marraige/motherhood. Sigh….
July 14, 2008 at 12:54 pm
See…the movie will get into you…..heheheheh…
July 26, 2008 at 11:20 am
I think the the series rocks for both its vanity (which is like a huge playground for girls) and its profoundness (how close it is to life)…
You write a lot about the friendship and I completely agree with you “friend’s power” I am more more than lucky to have you in my life…
There is another point I picked up from the movie… which is this…
Women often forget that men are not as strong as they potray themselves to be… the reason why the love us so much is because we can see this side of them and we can be there when they are weak and insecure. The problem is that men usually have huge problem expressing it and it will be then up to the woman to understand it…
Most of the time we can do this, but when we got carried away with our own self (which is just a normal human behavior) we forget the most fundamental thing that bind us together, our sensitivity, care and attention to them….
I read Dewi Lestari’s blog on her seperation with Marcel. She is really good. She basically said things have got expiration dates and there is no point in trying to understand why they happen other than its meant to be what is important how we move on… and I somehow realize its true….
We wasted soo much time trying to understand why, forgetting that the answer will not bring us anything of the past back, while we waste time creating the future…
Nice one that is, love – wido
July 26, 2008 at 1:37 pm
@Wido: that’s a good point about men and their weakness. But it works for both men and women, I think. The thing is, women express it, men don’t, except to those they trust. Like you said, move on. And the movie is about moving on and understanding ourselves.
As Carrie went through her pain, depression, through all the process of anger, surviving and picking up her pieces, and survived. Can’t every women relate to that? SJP played her role really well.
Christopher North (Mr. Big) seems to be an every women dream guy, but it is true that his insecurity, his consistancy in loving Carrie and realizing he made a BIG mistake…I wonder if that sort of guy exist. I wish I’ll find my Mr. Big. Mature, handsome, rich and makes me laugh.
I remember Carrie said, “When you are in the 20s, do everything. You fix it when you are in your 30s and in your 40s you buy drinks”.